One of the things that I enjoy the most in my life is being married. It’s something I wouldn’t change for anything or anyone in this world. I also believe that sharing your life with your spouse is one of the greatest gifts and blessing someone could ask for! Equally important, married life, should be a happy life, and no the other way around! That’s the reason I want to encourage you to be the best you can be in your marriage. So, in addition to have a happily ever after, your spouse is also your partner in crime and best friend! After all, wasn’t that the reason you got married in the first place! 😉
When a man and a women get married, they are making a commitment to love and to cherish each other for the rest of their lives! This is something extremely profound and beautiful to me. However, right now, divorce rates are extremely high! In fact, can you believe that about 40 to 50% marriages in America will end up in divorce? I don’t know about you, but I DON’T WANT to be part of that number! You may ask, how do we get out of that statistic?
First of all, It will always start with you! You are the fundamental and missing piece for your marriage to work! Think about it; if you and your spouse have that same mindset, imagine all the things you both can accomplish together! Now, in light of this principle, let me give you this ideas and ways you can be your husband’s partner in crime!
15 Ways To Be Your Husband’s Best Friend!
1) Love is a choice and a verb, not a feeling
We all love the feeling of falling in love! Remember those moments when you were willing to do anything to be around him! Unfortunately – when we get married – we get accustomed to each other’s presence and, therefore, we stop acting the way we used to while we were dating. In other words, don’t let this ruin your marriage! Love your spouse regarding the way you’re feeling and have a servant heart! Unless you’re married to a heartless man, I’m sure he will notice and will have you as his number one in life.
2) Be joyful
Nobody likes to be around someone that only complains and has negative thoughts. Instead be joyful and thankful for the all the things you have. Seriously, this is for everything in life. Don’t you feel happy every time you see your spouse is happy? That’s my point, Be contagious with your personality and charisma! Remember that your smile besides being the best beauty tip ever, it can also make your husband’s day!
3) Support each other:
This is so important! There’s nothing better than feeling supported by your loved ones! There’ll be a moment in your relationship where you’ll be able to either built your husband up, or to discourage him! Marriage is a contract where you both get to support dreams – including the crazy ones – share burdens, celebrate goals, accomplish and achieve goals together.
4) Have a win-win relationship:
One day I said to my husband, fine! you’re right, you win – mad face – I don’t even remember what were arguing about, but I do remember what he said. His replied was: I don’t want to win I want both of us to win. I get it there are times where you are either right or wrong, but that doesn’t mean you get to step on your spouse’s ideas or feelings. For most cases try to find win-win situations where you both are happy with the results. It takes practice, but it can be done.
5) Practice your communication skills
There are so many problems that could be resolved by just asking. What did you mean with that? We are very prone to judge and get caught up in things that didn’t even exist in the first place! So next time you are in a conversation and something bothered you, don’t jump into bad conclusions, just ask again and avoid a meaningless fight!
6) Choose your battles
Choose the things that are worth arguing for. Marriage isn’t perfect and there will always be disagreements and things that will truly annoy you about your spouse! So, you can either go to battle for every single little thing that you disagree with, or you can choose wisely and go for the true problems that need to be addressed. Note: If there is something that is robbing the joy of your marriage you shouldn’t keep it to yourself – with a humble and loving heart – have a conversation with your spouse and let them know how you’re feeling!
7) Forgive and don’t go to bed angry
Love keeps no record of wrong. Holding things against each other isn’t only bad for your relationship, but also for you. When we keep resentments in our lives we become bitter and hateful. You don’t want to have those feelings towards the man you sword to love till death! In addition don’t go to bed angry. Be quick to move on, and don’t dwell on a fight or argument for long periods of time.
8) Serve, serve and serve
Not everyone has a servant heart, but everyone likes to be served. What a dilemma! Sometimes, we put ourselves in pedestals and keep believing we deserve the best of the best. Well… Are we given the best of the best? Flex your serving muscle without expecting anything in exchange. Even when you don’t feel like it. Sometimes that’s the moment were your husband will appreciate it the most.
Hear your husband thoughts and concerns. Don’t belittle him or treat him as a child. Keep in mind that respect is the one thing a man would ask more from you than your love. Don’t ever ridicule him in front of his friends, family, children, or anyone. This will hurt his heart in a deep way.
10) Expect the best of him
We are so easy to have assumptions about the things that will happen. If you expect the worse of your spouse, he will for sure sens that and, guess what? That’s what you will receive. I encourage you to expect the best from your husband, isn’t that what friends are for? When you notice the good in him you will encourage him to be better- that’s why – this is a cycle that pays dividends for the years to come!
11) Share quality time
Find moments and activities where you both can build your relationship. Give undivided attention to your partner. He deserves it! Having a lot of time time together can be meaningless if you are not having quality time. Being in a same room doesn’t mean anything, if you both are not engaging and focusing in each other.
12) Have intimacy
What are the things of moments that you feel the closest to your husband? Do you think you are his confident, or best friend? I love when my husband says “You’re my favorite” It melts my heart. But I guess I’ve gained that spot in his heart by being a companionship to him, and encouraging him every time I have an opportunity! Are you your husband’s favorite?
13) Don’t let yourself go
This goes for husbands and wives! Marriage is not a license to be conformed and let yourself go. If anything, it’s an opportunity to get and be better everyday. For instance: If you used to workout, take care of your body, put make up on, etc while you were dating. Why would you stop that after you get married? Did it ever occur to you that maybe those were some of the things your spouse really liked about you?
14) Be silly and careless
I don’t know about you, but I love silliness, jokes and games. Having my own inside jokes with my husband and laughs at all times is one of my favorite things in marriage! I want to invite you to see the silly and careless part of your relationship. Have the ability to joke with each other without being easily offended. Just have fun! Go for ice cream, have a pillow fight, tickle him (They might not like this 🙂 ), etc.
15) Submit your marriage to God
In my humble opinion, and the most important of all, allow God in you marriage! Scripture says: He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. Prov 18:22. How cool is that? God works directly in our hearts and that help us to be a better spouse. I also encourage you to pray for your husband and family.
Are you ready to be your husband’s best friend and Partner in crime! I hope you feel encouraged to take your marriage one step forward! Defy the statistics… You can have a beautiful life accompanied by your best friend!
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